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Facing parental insecuritiesWe all face certain insecurities when we first become parents; from the normal "what if I break them", all the way to the darker questions of " am I a bad parent", these are all normal thoughts for new parents. That is especially so with the unfair stigma that alternative parents usually contend with. Although we may not be able to completely dismiss all of the questions we have about our parenting style, we can surely try our hardest to be the best that we can possibly be.
While becoming a first time mom, I often times wondered if I would be fit to become a mother; I was one of the coldest people I had known for years. It was an unfortunate fact, that I simply had to question during the pregnancy. However, upon the arrival of my daughter I seemed to fall right into the swing of things. She had opened my frost-bitten heart, into a warm glowing light. I had always known that I wanted to be a mother, it was a matter of when. Although she was a surprise, I still felt an uncanny connection with this little being that was growing inside of me. To this day, I still sit back in awe gazing at my daughter; wondering how such a beautiful and intelligent little girl could have possibly grown within my womb. But she is living proof that it happens, in one shining moment I was a mother now. From the first awkward times of changing diapers, all the way to the first nerve wrecking bump on her head. I was a nervous wreck, however I was fortunate enough to have an understanding partner in my life. He has guided me through thick and thin, aiding me in letting go of some of the insecurities of allowing her to explore. I was terrified of her getting hurt, scraping or bruising her perfect porcelain skin. However, it is all apart of childhood, and an inevitable part of life that children will get hurt; both physically by their exploration (of course this is within reason) and mentally; when she faces the disappointment of a stack of blocks tumbling to the floor. The only tried and true way of improving your confidence of parenting, is simply through trial and error. As you will gain confidence in everything that you do, whether it be diapering your child, or simply holding your child properly; there are millions of little ways our confidence increases every day. I remember when it would take me five minutes to change a diaper, when we first arrived home. I was bumbling and confused, however with a little bit of practice and time; I am now one of the fastest diaper changers in our family. Not only can I change a stinky bum in no time flat, but without taking pants or shoes completely off- all while keeping my child happy. Now that is a challenge! However we all have an enate ability to care for our children, all that needs to be done is to unlock these abilities. Related information topics:The Clash baby clothes |
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